Being like Jesus can be a bit tricky in a culture like ours, so filled as it is with cultural Christians, so absorbed with institutions, so obsessed with position, so given to experience over truth. John's Gospel offers a plethora of personal encounters between Jesus and individuals, some named and some anonymous. Each one opens a portal into what it means to be like our Lord.
Take John 4, for example. Following John 3, where the religious leader Nicodemus came to Jesus by night (call it "Nic at Night" if you will), Jesus HAD to go to Samaria. You know, Samaria--the place Jesus mentioned specifially in Acts 1:8--Jerusalem (where you live), Judea (your region), SAMARIA--people you really don't like, and so on. Jesus seemed to have to go places other religious people seemed to have to avoid. Where is the Samaria in your area? Who are the Samaritans? Who is being Jesus to them?
Jesus had to go there. Tired, thirsty, he sat by the well. His disciples went into town, maybe holding their noses as they went, seeking food. Read John 4 to see only the attitudes and actions of the disciples and you will observe how not to be like Jesus. They missed the point completely. How often do we mimic them?
But Jesus shows us how to love people. The Samaritan woman came to draw water at an odd time, as she lived her life ostracized from other women. When she came, this Jewish stranger graciously asked her for a drink. This anonymous woman had three strikes against her: 1) she was a woman. There were rabbis in the day who said "I thank thee God that I am not a Gentile, a dog, or a woman." Jesus apparently did not ascribe to that theory.
2) She had Samaritan blood. A half-breed, facing centuries-old prejudice, she stood before the Lord.
3) She lived an impure life. Her life story: married, divorced; married, divorced; married, divorced; married, divorced; married, divorced; shack up! She lived with a man (one would think in that culture after so many failed marriages she might just avoid men).
Yet Jesus did not see that. Compare John 3 to John 4. Nicodemus came to Jesus, a religious leader, and how did Jesus respond? Very directly: "You must be born again." On the surface one might assume Nic stood close to the entrance of the Kingdom when he encountered Jesus, yet Jesus assumed no such proximity. He came to Jesus and Jesus confronted him directly. In John 4, Jesus approached a broken, Samaritan woman with kindness, compassion, and patience. He did not so much as bring up her marital situation until well into the conversation. He sought not to condemn but to redeem; with Nicodemus, and with the self-righteous, Jesus did confront.
Jesus built rapport with the lady, using water as an analogy of salvation. Oh that we would be so secure in our doctrine AND so aware of our culture that we could translate the gospel as easily into daily conversations.
Jesus would not get sidetracked. When the woman chased the rabbit of worship location, contrasting Samaritan worship at Mt. Gerizim with Jewish worship in Jerusalem, our Lord told her worship had less to do with geography and more to do with intimacy. "The time is coming, and now is, when those who worship the Father will worship Him in Spirit and in truth." Timely words for contemporary worship as well.
As the conversation continued and the woman grew more interested, Jesus did confront her. Make no mistake, at some point when you share the gospel you must confront. Facing people squarely with issues of eternity, of heaven and hell, of knowing God or rejecting Him, can hardly be done without being confrontational. But Jesus simply confronted her in a kind and benevolent way. "I know Messiah is coming," she said. This woman sought God. She desired truth. So many unchurched do today, but are we like Jesus in our witness?
Jesus replied, "I who speak to you am He." I am the Messiah, He told her. Sounds pretty confrontational. She had to decide. Her decision was both swift and broad. She went into the city telling all the men (after all, she had been married to most of them!) about this Man. So many became followers of Christ. She became one of the first missionaries in the New Testament. Can we see the missionaries in our culture who, once meeting the One Who alone can redeem, become more effective than preachers at reaching the unchurched? After all, Saul of Tarsus hardly qualified as the missionary of choice when he went across the ANE killing Christians.
I want to be like Jesus. I want to love the Samaritans, the people I do not like, the people I am not naturally drawn toward, the people for whom Christ died. I want to know when to confront boldly, and when to confront kindly. I want to see the Samaritans in our land become missionaries in a lost culture.
I believe we are more like Jesus based on the lost people we influence than the saved people we impress. God help us to sense a Divine compulsion that we MUST go to Samaria.